I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that you didn't get married just to get divorced. You didn't enter a long-term relationship or move in with your partner expecting it to crash and burn. We are all hardwired for connection, which is exactly why it hurts so deeply when that connection feels like it's breaking. In this video, I want to talk to you about the reality of relationship dynamics and what you should actually expect from therapy. What's the hard truth I share

Some couples argue because of the issue. Most argue because of the difference . In this episode, we look at one of the most common mismatches in relationships: the Big Feeler  and the Big Processor . Big Feelers They experience emotions fast and intensely. They talk to connect, express to feel safe, and often fear disconnection when their partner goes quiet. Big Processors They experience emotions slowly and internally. They need space to think, organize, and calm their nervo

We’ve all been there. You walk through the door, see the socks on the floor again , and suddenly, a simple request turns into a shouting match. Before you know it, someone is sleeping on the couch. I’ve been thinking a lot about "communication breakdown." It’s a phrase we hear often, but what does it really look like? I like to think of our relationships like a car. Over time, without proper maintenance, the daily wear and tear—buying a house, raising kids, job stress—causes

It’s interesting—when couples come to see me, they almost never list "intimacy" as their top concern. Usually, they talk about communication. But when I look at the questionnaires they fill out, the scores for intimacy are often surprisingly low. Why the disconnect? I think many couples don't see it as a "problem" per se. They love each other and want to be together, but life gets in the way. They’re busy, they’re stressed, and by the end of the day, they are just plain tired

The division of labor is one of the biggest sources of conflict in families today. Back in the '50s, the model was simple: Dad worked, Mom ran the house. But today, it often takes two incomes to maintain a decent standard of living. The problem? While women have entered the workforce, the old mentality that "housework is women's work" often hasn't shifted. In my sessions, I see this often. Couples argue back and forth: "I do this!" "No, I do that!" Why is this gridlock so com

I get asked this question often in my practice: "How do I get over the pain of betrayal?" We have all felt the sting of betrayal at some point, but infidelity cuts deeper than almost any other emotional pain. It shatters the foundation of a relationship. If you are reading this, maybe you are in the thick of it right now. I want you to know that healing is possible, but it is a journey. In my experience, rebuilding trust requires six key things. 1. Give It Time There is a di